Thousands of Redditors have gathered around a mother who said her husband is trying to control their daughter’s eating because he “doesn’t want her to be fat like him.”
In a viral thread with 14,000 upvotes, Reddit user u / Similar-Ad-381 asked if they were wrong to stop her husband from trying to change their daughter’s eating habits. Posting the thread on Reddit’s r / AmITheA ** hole, u / Similar-Ad-381 explained that her husband recently started monitoring how much their eleven-year-old daughter is eating, that she needs to “put her foot down. “when he tried to reduce his portion sizes.
âMy husband and I have an 11 year old daughter together and so far everything is going very well. She has never been a skinny child, but she is a perfectly healthy weight for her age and height,â he said. she wrote. âLately she has been experiencing a growth spurt and I swear she grew 3 inches more in 3 months. She had a bigger appetite and ate dinner for a few seconds or ate slightly larger portions at meals. . “
u / Similar-Ad-381 assured her daughter always swims, plays basketball and does whatever she likes, but said her husband is worried about how much food their daughter is eating.
âMy husband really wants to start watching her portion sizes and not let her go for a few seconds, or let her eat chips or lollipops at all,â she wrote. “He told me he didn’t want her to be fat like him.”
u / Similar-Ad-381 said her husband’s attempts to control their daughter’s food intake had crossed the line and blamed her upbringing for her poor relationship with food.
“I put my arms down and told her absolutely not, because it’s a quick way to speed up an ED at her age,” she wrote. “I told him that the reason for his weight was due to his parents’ attitude towards food … I also said that he should be more afraid of having a daughter with an eating disorder. than having a fat daughter. “
According to the Johns Hopkins All Children’s Hospital website, eating disorders affect up to 30 million people in the United States, and 95% of people with eating disorders are between the ages of 12 and 25.
Addressing several myths about eating disorders, The Johns Hopkins All Children’s Hosptial reports that eating disorders have the highest risk of death of any mental illness, and although they are more common in women, eating disorders affect all genders, races and ethnicities.
Johns Hopkins also reports that while “eating disorder researchers and clinical experts believe that eating disorders are caused by both environmental and genetic factors … different social pressures can cause them to develop the disorder. “.
u / Similar-Aid-381 admitted her husband was applying this kind of pressure, and other Redditors praised her for stopping her attempts to control their daughter’s portion sizes.
âNTA, and you’re a super mom,â u / LollipopThrowAway wrote in the post’s first comment, which received over 20,000 votes. “However, I would keep your child away from her parents as much as possible so that she does not develop bad ideologies from them.”
Many of the post’s 2,000 or so commentators focused on the original poster’s husband and his parents, who u / Similar-Aid-381 say were responsible for his attitude towards food.
âProtect your daughter from these people!â Wrote u / DillyCat622. âYour husband would also benefit from therapy with an eating disorders therapist. He may be at a healthier weight, but eating disorders is a state of mindâ¦ He still carries a lot of shame and he projects it onto her. “
u / Sorcia_Lawson wrote that children like the girl in the original poster shouldn’t be criticized for their bodies, and thanked u / Similar-Aid-381 for standing up for her against her husband.
âGirls under 25 (brain development point) should not be subjected to the scrutiny of their bodies,â they commented. âSo thank you for protecting your baby. “